Who has not heard the phrase “until death do us part”? This is a wedding vow promised by each partner in a union, it implies a lifelong commitment to each other until death separates the two of them. But as time passes, the initial attraction may fade, marital conflicts may arise, and “Mr. Perfect” and “Mrs. Perfect” may just become strangers to each other. The divorce rates have increased over the years.
Today, Divorce breaks apart hundreds of families every year.Divorce is a loss of the family bond, but if it is inevitable, it could also mean an end to marital conflicts, yet at the cost of social and emotional health. Emotional, social, and financial problems often arise in the lives of the men and women who have separated from their spouses. A Separation between married couples cause devastating effects for not just the divorcing couple but also, the children extended family on either side involvedDivorced men and women often experience a vast variety of emotional, social, and financial problems.
Men and women often struggle with emotions such as rage, anxiety, and depression while in the process of divorce. Financial issues often arise from divorce due to the sudden absence of additional income that a person’s former spouse used to contribute.Also, many men and women experience certain social issues such as seclusion and the incapability to interact with others for a period of time after separating from their former spouseDivorce often causes negative psychological effects in children of the divorced couple.
Children’s psychological reactions vary based on the conflict between the parents, the relationship with their parents, and the ability of parents’ to prioritize the needs of children (Corcoran). Children of the divorce most often decline in school, have run-ins with the law, and suffer from depression. The children suffer from mental health, substance abuse and delinquency (Emery). Children show signs before the divorce because of the parental disputes. Often times, when consoling the child, Many people subside the feeling and true meaning of divorce by persuading the child that divorce is good, and people with married parents envy them. For some, this method works, but most children who have divorced parents would rather have one family with a constant home. Many people brush off the teens’ feelings during a divorce.
Without proper help, the children of the divorcing parents can act uninterested and unsympathetic. They can sometimes isolate more than usual from their parents, becoming sarcastic or reserved. Many dismiss these as the actions of an average hormonal, ungrateful teenager. In many cases, the extended family members have grown close to the new addition to their family. Many of these family members formed friendships as they shared birthdays and holidays during the couple’s marriage.
The grief the extended family feels for the loss of their in-law is unfair. In reality, the couple’s union often trumped by blood. Blood family often show loyalty to each other, and when the spouse leaves the group, they no longer have rights to the inner circle. Other family members believe that they cannot maintain relations with the ex, as that would be disloyal to their blood relatives, and they decide to sever the bond. Unfortunately, the children are the ones who suffer because they ultimately lose a relative. Ending a marriage causes many effects not only in the lives of the separating couple but the lives of all those connected. Children who suddenly lose a parent because of divorce exhibit vast varieties of emotional and psychological struggles.
Extended families of those who divorce also suffer from friction in the family. God realizes the pain that comes from divorce and commands against it to protect his own children. If more husbands and wives could learn to forgive and love one another, fewer families would have to endure the heart-rending pain caused by divorce.